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Soulmate or Nothing!

“Ok Ada, I want soulmate love. But does that actually exist for a woman like me?”

 

 Yes, sister. That kind of love is possible for you.

 

I know what it’s like to want it, while secretly wondering if you’re the woman it just won’t happen for.

After a failed marriage to a man with every red flag and almost a decade as a single mom moving from one painful situationship to another, I had to admit that I no longer trusted myself to choose a good man.

I was constantly wondering what was wrong with me. I’m a divorced single mom—damaged goods. I'm too tall. Too fat. Too old. Too much. Undesirable. Broken somehow.

Besides- The good ones are already taken.

Those beliefs were quietly running my dating life. I had to examine how—and admit what I actually wanted: soulmate love. The unicorn relationship I secretly believed wasn’t possible for me.

I spent a year learning to stop abandoning myself. I went back to school. Studied neuroscience, habit change, communication and conflict resolution. I studied, but more importantly, I practiced what I was learning. I conducted dozens of experiments in my life to test the results because I was no longer interested in understanding alone- I wanted results. I wanted my soulmate, and more importantly- I wanted to love myself. Really and truly.

When I met David, that work helped me see him clearly, hold my self-respect, and let his actions give me reasons to trust him. Six years of marriage, three more babies, two cats, and twelve chickens later, our life is better than I had even dreamed.

That’s the work I’m sharing with you in Soulmate or Nothing.

We explore the beliefs, behaviors, and emotional patterns behind your choices. Why do you dismiss a red flag? Keep investing in an inconsistent man? Hope he’ll choose you instead of asking whether you would actually choose him?

Until you address those patterns, you can meet a different man and find yourself in the same relationship. Over and over.

This program is ONLY for single women who want the “unicorn” relationship of their deepest heart’s desire. Women who are ready to examine themselves and change their choices.

This is not a dating strategies program. I won’t give you scripts or a “three-date rule.” I won’t teach you how to get a man, keep his attention, or convince him to commit. No, thank you.

This work is about remembering your worth and your power—and practicing choices that honor them. Because YOU are the Prize.

I ask you to pause all dating and sex while you work through the full program and put that energy toward falling in love with yourself. That commitment is part of the work.

If you’re looking for dating strategies or aren’t willing to take that pause, this program isn’t for you.

Purchase the complete self-paced program for $222. 

“But Ada, I’ve been in therapy. I’ve read the books. I’ve done so much work. What’s different here—and why should I trust you?”

If you're here, I already know some things about you. The women who find my work are deeply self aware. You already understand a lot about yourself. You can name your attachment style, your personality type, sun and moon sign, your enneagram or human design, and explain where they came from. But what happens when you like a man and he starts pulling away? When you want to ask for something but worry you’ll seem needy? When you see a red flag but start explaining it away?

Knowing your patterns and changing your choices in those moments are two different things.

In Soulmate or Nothing, we take what you’re learning and apply it to your daily life. Not just more understanding, embodied living. 

The six-week pause from dating and sex gives you room to practice without an audience. You get to find out what you want when you aren’t adjusting it around what someone else expects.

Why trust me? I’ve lived the patterns I’m talking about, changed my own choices, married my soulmate and taught hundreds of women this work. I can explain what we’re doing and why. But I’m not asking you to hand me your judgment or believe that my marriage guarantees your outcome.

The point of this program is for you to build trust in yourself. To have evidence that you can hear your own needs, honor them, and choose accordingly. 

Here's what women have been saying about Soulmate or Nothing!

“After decades of trying to ‘fix’ myself and intellectually knowing what needed to change, Soul Mate or Nothing was the first process that truly moved this work out of my head and into my body, heart, and daily actions. For the first time, I began pausing to ask what I needed instead of automatically prioritizing everyone else. The small, repeatable shifts taught in this work created real, embodied change. In my 70 years, this program exceeded anything I’ve tried. If you’re on the fence, know this: you are worth it.”

-Carolyn

“Before Soul Mate or Nothing, I was stuck in the same cycle of overgiving, settling, and accepting less than I deserved because I didn’t trust myself or my intuition. This work helped me get clear on my non-negotiables, reconnect with my body, and stop self-abandoning in the process of loving others. One of my biggest breakthroughs was realizing that ‘almost’ is not enough. I am worthy of soulmate-level love — the kind of partnership where both people feel chosen, valued, supported, and deeply cared for.”

-Katie

“Before Soul Mate or Nothing, I was living my life on pause — waiting on someone else’s decisions, settling for less, and abandoning my own dreams in the process. This work helped me unpause my life. I began trusting my body, honoring my needs, and choosing myself in ways I never had before. I’m traveling, pursuing my dreams, setting clear standards, and opting out of anything that doesn’t feel aligned. The biggest shift? I realized this wasn’t about finding my soulmate — it was about becoming that level of love for myself first.”

-Madison 

What you’ll get

Your pre-order includes the complete Soulmate or Nothing self-paced program:

  • All the teachings, homework, and experiments from my six-week group coaching program. Become your own soulmate, rebuild self-trust, and practice choosing from self-respect instead of hoping to be chosen.

  • Holy YES! A No BS Devotional Path to Wholeness, Desire and Divine Love. My eBook exploring my personal story with the work, your relationship with yourself, your desires, and love. Plus bonus frameworks to change your love life forever!

  • My 9-Day Field Guide to Breaking People-Pleasing Habits. Small, real-life experiments to help you stop abandoning yourself and break the “pick me” habits that follow you into dating.

  • My Red Flags Dating Guide. Learn to recognize red flags and see the relationship a man is actually offering, rather than the potential you hope he’ll grow into.

  • Three guided visualizations that women rave about as life-changing. Deepen your relationship with yourself through guided experiences you can return to whenever you need to reconnect, listen inward, and remember your worth.

Everything opens October 16 at 3 pm Mountain Time. Work through it at your own pace, with room to reflect, practice, and bring what you’re learning into your life.

 

Who this is for

All ages. All kinds of relationship histories. Whether you’re dating right now or can’t imagine opening another app.

 

This is for you if:

  • You’re in a long-term relationship going nowhere. You’ve spent years waiting for commitment, hoping things will change, or wondering whether what you want is ever going to happen with this person.

  • You’re processing a divorce or painful breakup. Whether it happened last month or decades ago, it still affects how you see yourself, love, and what’s possible for you.

  • You’re actively dating. You want to stop dating for potential, dismissing red flags, and getting attached before you’ve asked whether you actually want the man in front of you.

  • You’re not sure you even want to date. You’re tired, disappointed, or enjoying being alone. You want room to hear your own desires without pressure to get back out there.

  • You’re a single mom. Your choices affect you and your children. You want to trust yourself to choose someone you’re proud to bring into your lives.

  • You’ve started wondering whether the love you want is asking too much. You want to get clear on your standards and stop talking yourself out of what matters to you.

And this self-paced format may be just what you’ve been waiting for if:

  • You’ve wanted to do this work, but the schedule, timing, or investment kept you from joining my groups.

  • You prefer the privacy and flexibility of working at your own pace, with time to pause, reflect, and revisit a teaching.

  • You love audio learning and podcast-style teaching—honest conversations you can take on a walk or listen to while moving through your day.

  • You’ve followed my content, connected with what I share, and trust the direction of this work.

  • You’re ready to practice, experiment, and change how you choose and treat yourself. You want transformation, not just more information.

What happens after you buy

 

First, check your inbox. You’ll receive your purchase confirmation by email, followed by any updates before the program opens. Be sure to sign up for emails and make an account.

On & after October 16 at 3 pm Mountain Time, you’ll receive access to the complete program, with clear instructions on where to begin and how to find your teachings, homework, experiments, and guides.

You’ll also receive access to your private audio feed, so you can listen through your favorite supported app, including Spotify, YouTube, or Apple Podcasts. Take the teachings on a walk, listen in the car, or settle in with your journal.

I’ll walk you through getting connected. Then you can move through the work at your own pace and return to the teachings whenever you need them.

 

A personal note

Sister, I know what it’s like to want deep love and wonder whether you can trust yourself to choose it.

 

I know the disappointment of another “almost.” The grief of realizing you knew from the beginning. The quiet fear that maybe the love you want just isn’t available to you.

Soulmate or Nothing began in that place for me. What followed was learning to take my own heart, desires, and life seriously—and practicing until my choices began to reflect that.

Today, I’m married to a man I deeply love, trust, and admire. And I’m proud of the woman I became along the way. The woman who learned to listen to herself and keep the promises she made in her journal.

That’s why sharing this work means so much to me.

You’re allowed to want the love you want. And you’re worthy of your own love and loyalty while you choose it.

If you’re ready to begin, I would love to have you join me.

Love,
Ada

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